In "'Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code" from Rereading America, Michael Kimmel talks about some research he discovered when asking males what it means to be a man. Most women would basically say something like, "Whatever I want" when asked what they think it means to be a woman. Men, on the other hand, usually come up with the response "Don't cry." Other similar phrases and ideas such as: "never show your feelings, never ask for directions, never give up, never give in, be strong, be aggressive..." (Kimmel 609) etc. would follow after that. These answers give the same meaning as admitting to weakness. As a man, males like to appear good and manly or masculine...especially when trying to impress a girl. Even when you are sad or feeling down and not in the mood, you are to not show your feelings that easily. A man acts as if there is nothing going on and everything is going perfectly fine."The Guy Code" is a particular language guys follow in order to tell whether he measures up or not.
In my opinion, I would like to say that this is very true. I see guys doing that all the time, not showing their feelings and basically just going with the flow. But do they really have to bottle themselves up like that? What if you are feeling like you're going to explode because you are keeping too much of those feelings inside? Isn't it better to let some of them out to someone close to you so that you can feel like something is off your shoulders? I don't think anyone should always keep everything to themselves. I understand that guys want to be manly and strong and everything, but sometimes...girls like sensitive guys. It shows that they don't care what others think about them. I have a friend who goes by "The Guy Code." He never shows his feelings and never really tell anyone his hardships. But once in a long while, he would say, "Life is really hard right now. I just wish things would be easier." He's a guy who doesn't judge anyone and would just say "hi" to everyone...including strangers. He's a great guy. It's pretty depressing when he actually lets out a little of his feelings. He rarely does that. And I'm not saying it's a bad thing that doesn't show much. It's just everyone has at least someone they hold dear to them...and tell them almost everything. But I feel like my friends keeps everything to himself. I don't think guys should act so manly all the time. There are times when we need to cope with our feelings and having someone listen to you can be a big help. It can relieve stress at some point.
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